Bonding Issues

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Bonding Issues

Postby josalinegreen » Mon Dec 23, 2013 12:20 pm

So, I've had Asteria for a little over a month now (she is right at three months old), and she seems to be bonding relatively well in my shirt, and is sometimes ok with being out and on my shirt. However, when I take her out and try to bond with her outside of shirt-time she freezes until she has an opportunity to go hide. I don't know what it is about me that comes off as so intimidating, but she doesn't seem to want anything to do with me unless she's sleeping in my shirt. As soon as she wakes up lately (the past week or so), she darts off my shoulder and finds a corner to hide in or just runs back to her cage; and while I'm glad she understands her nesting box as a safe space, I'm concerned because she seems frightened to even be near me. I guess what I'm wondering is how I can show her that I'm not such an imposing figure, and that the safe space she finds in my shirt is actually a part of the giant creature she seems so averse to :? .

To complicate this further, I am also curious how to handle her innate fear of my dog. He's a Husky/German Shepherd mix, and as such, a mighty big boy. I've been doing my best to keep them separate when having bonding time with Asteria, but I can't seem to even have him in the same room with her when she is out. Even though he's showed very little interest in her since she came into the house, she still runs/hides any time she can see him. I know this is something that will never go away, and I appreciate that she isn't reckless around predators. I am wanting to know, though, if there's anything I can do to alleviate her stress around him/show her he's really not all that bad.

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Re: Bonding Issues

Postby Skirkpatrick74 » Mon Dec 23, 2013 12:44 pm

It will just take some time. Daisy would run from Jack when we first got him, and now (after a month) she tolerates him but still prefers to be away from him. We have had Daisy for 4 months (she's 4 years old) and she's just starting to come around to liking me. Don't try to make her, let her come to you...maybe do the small bathroom thing Joan has suggested before: Squirrel proof a small room (bathrooms work) and sit in there with her (reading a book, something other than focusing on her). Let her come to you in her own time. You might have to do it several times before she starts coming around...don't give up on her! Think of all the predators in nature that they have...anything bigger than them is one! So of course she's going to be frightened of you, your dog, etc. It'll take her some time to figure out that you aren't going to harm her. Good luck!
Shannon, mom to Sandy, Daisy, Jack, Zooey and three human teenagers! :)

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Re: Bonding Issues

Postby josalinegreen » Mon Dec 23, 2013 1:00 pm

Thank you for your advice. I have to admit, I had kind of figured this was the solution, but I wanted to make sure!


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